Hi babes! Happy Monday, let’s kill it and have a great week! If you’ve followed my blog for a while you know that I started off with fashion only but I want to connect on a deeper level so I’ve been branching out into different topics. Today’s post is all about balance and staying inspired.
How do you stay inspired with social media?
I will answer this a couple of different ways but I want to start off by saying that social media shouldn’t give you any type of pressure or feel like work.
How I stay inspired…
Follow accounts that make you feel good: This is huge because you want to follow accounts that inspire you to do better. I love accounts that make me want to share the best content, recreate outfits, go to those cute coffee shops etc. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve unfollowed accounts because they don’t do anything for me so it becomes pointless to continue following them. Make sure you have good energy when it comes to the things you post and getting good vibes from what other people post.
Post what YOU want: This one is straightforward and I truly mean this because your social media should be about things that bring you joy so whatever inspires you then post that. It’s easy to look at other accounts and want to post exactly what they’re sharing but instead let it inspire you and turn it into your own so it can still represent you!
Pinterest: I’m leaving this one for last but it’s probably my favorite and most addicting one because who doesn’t love pinterest? They have so many ideas and can spark inspiration on so many different levels. I’ve created so many boards for fashion looks I want to recreate, for my baby shower and to plan Delilah’s first birthday party, etc. It’s a great tool to refer back to that can bring you positivity.
Remember that whenever you feel discouraged, know that it’s a phase and it will pass. Do things that inspire you and never compare yourself to someone else’s journey. Have the confidence to know that you’re a bad ass b*tch and you got this!! Social media is supposed to be light and fun so don’t take it seriously. I enjoy sharing my outfits on Instagram daily, I post what I want because it’s my page and I hope you can feel the same when it comes to you even if it’s not related to fashion. Let’s keep the good vibes and end this year strong!
To this day I still can’t believe I’m a mom sometimes, it’s so crazy to me how my life has completely changed and it has really been for the better. Delilah has changed my life in so many ways which I’ll get to in a little but she is now 5 months!!!! Like how?! Time is flying and I love seeing her personality more (Bryant says she has my attitude) she smiles all the time and I have been lucky enough to be home with her for this long and not have to go back to work right away. It’s been a while since I last posted and I always want to kick myself in the butt for always taking these long breaks but I’m back so I’m here to share all of my updates since having the baby.
The number one question I ALWAYS get is: How do you find the time to do it all?!
My answer is simple JUST.GET.SHIT.DONE! Sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy but I work best under pressure and having a million things on my plate. Like right now I’m writing this blog post and I have the baby next to me drinking her bottle. I find the time to get things done when the baby is occupied, if I have the help of a family member or even when Bryant is here because he’s very hands on. If you have the help, TAKE IT!
I also get tons of comments from people saying that I’m their motivation which truly makes me so happy because I know I’m influencing someone in a positive way! My biggest thing when I became a mom was to show that all things are possible. I love going to the gym, it’s a part of my everyday life, now don’t get me wrong, there are days I’m not feeling it and sometimes I do miss a day or two but for the most part I have become very disciplined to get things done.
I will admit, before having the baby I was soooo LAZY! I would get things done but I had all of the time in the world and knowing that, I would always procrastinate and I remember waking up early but not getting out of bed til like 10-11 am and just watching so much tv! I hated that feeling but I wasn’t doing anything to change that and as much as I wanted a routine, I didn’t have a reason to push myself. As cheesy as it may sound but now that I have Delilah, I’m up by 6:30 am and it feels so much better!
Now that I have my routine down with Delilah, it has also smoothed things down by A LOT. I remember when I first had her and so many moms on Instagram would reach out and say, “it gets better” and I would think to myself when?! The first couple of months were difficult for me because Delilah experienced colic so she was up most nights, nothing would comfort her and she would cry at the top of her lungs and sounded like she was in so much pain and I felt so helpless. I probably made it look easy on social media but I remember feeling anxious when the night was approaching because it was like clockwork that she would start crying around 9-10 pm. Once Delilah was 2 1/2 month old, she finally started sleeping through the night and her colic started going away which was such a relief.
I didn’t experience postpartum depression but whenever I did feel sad or was having an off day, I would literally tell myself all of the positive things going on in my life and that if today was a rough day, tomorrow would be a brand new day and that it would be a good day! I also had tons of help from family members, friends and Bryant! I have to say this because sometimes I feel like he doesn’t get enough credit but he helped me out so much in the beginning emotionally and physically (I’m a cry baby) he would always cheer me on and say that I’m doing a great job, I’m a great mother etc. He would work a 12 hr shift and still come home and take over to give me a little break, or when we had those long nights and he had work the next morning he would still be up with me and I really appreciate him for that because it showed me a different side and that he’s not a selfish person!
Things are soooo much easier now, Delilah sleeps through the night, she’s a happy baby and we will be introducing solids in a couple of weeks so I’m excited to experience that with her! I bring her along everywhere I go, even when I’m out shooting content and she loves it. So many fun things are coming up and I’m excited for the holidays because it will be our first year celebrating it as a family so I can’t wait to start new traditions!
I promise I will stay on top of my blog and post at least once a week! If there’s any topics you guys want me to dive into just let me know, I love sharing my experiences especially as a new mother.
Hi babes, I want to start off by saying happy three months to my baby girl Delilah! I say it all the time but OMG time flies and I notice it now more than ever as I see my baby changing everyday!
As you all know, I love to share my journey as a new mama and I love talking to other moms out there and connecting in general so in today’s blog post I want to share a message I will be passing on to my daughter so I’m warning you now, you might need some tissues if you’re a cry baby like me! LOL
Things have changed so much since having the baby and as cliché as it sounds, it truly does change your perspective with everything that goes on in your life. I used to say before “I don’t have time for the bulls*t!” but now I really don’t, having a baby has taught me to be strong, focus on what matters and to live in the moment.
Bryant and I always have conversations of how it’ll be as Delilah grows up, what we’re going to say and do in certain situations but one thing is for sure, we love her from the bottom of our hearts. I always tell Bryant that we have to be patient, learn from Delilah but also teach her to do the right thing. There are many answers on what “the right thing” should be but I always want her to remain kind.
So here is my message:
Delilah, I always want you to be proud of who you are and where you came from. You will come across difficult situations in life but never let it harden your soul. Remember the important things in life are to be happy, your family will always be there for you to support your dreams and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. I will teach you to be independent and fearless to go after anything you want in life, anything is possible when you have the determination to get it done. Stand strong for what you believe in and never let anyone intimidate you. In such a short amount of time, I see you shining and how quickly you make a presence when you come into a room. Your smile makes me the happiest and I enjoy interacting with you and seeing something new everyday! I can only imagine the things you’ll say and do as you get older and I’ll be right here to guide you and help you navigate this crazy thing we call life. You have changed my life in more ways than you’ll ever know and I am a better person because of it. I’ll be your best friend and we can both drive your dad crazy (we already do) but it’s okay! LOL
I could’ve said so much more but I wanted to keep it light, things are changing everyday and I’m definitely here for the adventure. I won’t lie, the first few weeks were tough because no matter how prepared you are, once your baby is born your world completely flips around so you have the raging hormones, your body is in pain, you have zero sleep but in the end it’s all truly worth it and it gets better. This is definitely a vulnerable post but I hope you all enjoyed this different side of me.
Hiiiii babes, the weeks are flying by and I see my baby girl smiling and it makes me so happy to start seeing her personality show a little more.
In my last post, I shared my first four weeks being postpartum and as promised I am here with an update sharing weeks 5-8 which have been a little different because I can feel my strength coming back, and OMG I was also counting down the days for the doctor to clear me to workout again!!!
I want to give you all some insight on everything I’ve been doing as far as food, exercise etc.
Overall, I must say that it is extremely important to have “me” time as a mom to have those moments where you can feel like yourself even if it’s just going out for errands which is what I started doing first when stepping out alone. It sounds so crazy but having those moments felt amazing because I was able to recharge, reflect and not be stuck at home with the same routine. As a blogger, I also started going to events again and shooting content which brings me such joy so to feel those things again have been heartwarming and I appreciate it even more.
Like I mentioned in my last post, I’m not doing any kind of diet. I love food BUT they are home cooked meals so I love my protein and carbs. I do stay away from fast food and I’m sooooo happy I don’t have a craving for that anymore! LOL…Every now and then I still get my Krispy Kreme donuts, I’ll have a couple of cookies here and there but I don’t have them around the house so I am definitely aware of what I’m eating. I only drink water and my protein shakes so that means no juice or soda which is a huge change when I was pregnant because I would say yes to everything (not soda but I would always take a sip or two for cravings). I do eat a lot especially now that I started working out again, I pack on the protein because I want to gain my muscle back.
OMG guys, I’m back at the gym!! When the doctor said I would be clear to workout again at 8 weeks I was over the moon excited! It’s definitely a lifestyle that many people might not understand but being used to working out, having a good sweat really makes you feel good. I was missing that adrenaline rush from pushing myself to lift more, go hard and being able to take my mind off of things so to get all of that back had me smiling from ear to ear. I knew it would be baby steps walking back into the gym because of my surgery and not having a big belly to carry in front of me of course! LOL
I worked out throughout my whole pregnancy and even though I lost all of the muscle I had built, I was able to maintain so getting back in there didn’t feel like I was starting back at square one. I am lifting again but I’m still not doing any ab work (I’ll wait a couple of more weeks for that). So you’ll see in the progress pictures, my stomach is still somewhat bloated. Right now I’m focused on getting my strength back in the gym with the rest of my body and as time goes on, I’ll work on my core as well.
I hope you guys are enjoying the process, I am always happy to share these moments with you and to continue this journey as well. You can always leave a comment here, email or DM me on Instagram as well if you have any questions or just want to chat.
Hi babes, OMG has it been a crazy couple of weeks to say the least! For those who read my last post, I shared my labor story and now I am here to share my journey and how it’s been transitioning into motherhood.
It has been a little over a month now since having my baby girl and time is flying right by!
I am more than happy to share my fitness journey post baby as many of you have mentioned to me that you want to see my progress. You all know I love a good gym session and although I haven’t been cleared to workout yet, I can’t wait to go back! I watch tons of workout videos and I’m excited for when that day comes where I can lift again because it’s my happy place.
I will be sharing photos of my weekly updates so you can all see my transformation. This first month has been all about letting my body heal on its own. The doctor specifically said not to go on a diet which hasn’t been a problem for me because I don’t believe in diets, I try to eat as healthy as possible but I also enjoy my cheat meals every now and then.
This transition into motherhood has taught me not to be hard on myself and has helped me realize that I shouldn’t focus so much on trying to get my body back because when the time comes, I’ll be able to workout again. I have never been one to obsess over losing weight, for me it’s a lifestyle and I enjoy working out and lifting weights so all I can do for now is be patient. It has been a vulnerable stage in my life as so much has changed in the blink of an eye with the arrival of my baby, it’s a completely new lifestyle which I am grateful for because I am no longer selfish and I am now putting someone else before myself. This month has also taught me to be more of a positive person and to enjoy the moment because we’ll never get that time back.
I learn something new everyday and I thank my baby for that, I can only imagine how much more I will learn as she continues to grow.
It’s crazy that for the last 9-10 months, I’ve had tons of cravings and I was saying yes to eating whatever I wanted. Now that it’s been a little over a month postpartum, I am more conscious of my eating habits especially because I am not cleared to workout yet.
As you can see in the picture down below, each photo was taken every week to show my progress of my stomach going down. In the first picture, I still look pregnant, I was still swollen all over my body due to my c section. My incision still feels tender but it’s slowly healing and I feel so much better now as time is going by. I am not ashamed to share these photos because it reminds me that I just had a baby and she grew beautifully inside throughout my pregnancy. It’s amazing what the body can do and I’m excited to share what the body can do after having a baby.
I am strong and hopeful, as a woman and I am here to say that anything is possible and it’s important to keep pushing and to remain positive even through the bad days!
OMG!!! I can’t believe my baby girl Delilah is here and made it safe into this world. She was born at 37 weeks on Easter Sunday and I have to say, I still find myself thinking this is all a dream- I am a mother now!
Lots of you have been asking me on Instagram to share my labor story so I’m here to get into all of the juicy details…
So the day before Easter, I was perfectly fine with my hair and makeup done ready to enjoy the day. That whole week Bryant and I kept saying how Delilah could be here at any moment which is something I was excited but nervous because I still had a couple of things to get ready before her arrival. So anyway, that Saturday Bryant and I went over to my parents house for a bbq, now you all know how much I love food! LOL
So we went to hang out, watch movies and spend time with my family and I had some bomb ass chicken straight off the grill with rice, salad and some horchata to go with it so I was basically in heaven! A couple of hours later we grilled some hot dogs which I have to mention, I HATE hot dogs but you know those weird pregnancy cravings make you eat and want things you would’ve said no to before but here I was eating two hot dogs, enjoying life! I had some ice cream afterwards and then I started feeling nauseous which again I have to mention, I didn’t vomit once throughout my pregnancy so this was definitely a weird sign (blame the hot dogs). By this time it was around 10 pm but I just remember having to go pee about every half hour or so and my stomach felt heavy and uncomfortable either standing or sitting down.
I told Bryant it was time to go home because I just wanted to be in my own bed resting, now by this time it was around 11 pm and I remember getting ready for bed but feeling a huge discomfort and the possibility of vomiting at any moment. I tried going to sleep and nothing was working and by midnight I just started vomiting like crazy!!!! Again, blame the hot dogs! LOL I felt so disgusted because I was so sure it had to be the hot dogs that gave me an upset stomach. I kept trying to go to bed and about every hour I would wake up and go straight to the bathroom to vomit some more, I know TMI!!
The vomiting lasted all night and I didn’t seem to get any better, it also doesn’t help that you can’t take any medicine when being pregnant so around 5 am, I threw up again and told Bryant to take me to the emergency room because I thought it was food poisoning. So here we go, on our way to the hospital- I’m grumpy AF from lack of sleep and just wanting to figure out what was wrong. We get there and right away they hook me onto the monitors to see if I’m contracting and how the baby is doing. So I was already having contractions ever 2-3 minutes which I didn’t really feel I think because I was so focused on vomiting that I didn’t feel any pain (it honestly just feels like period cramps, nothing to die over in my opinion) and as they were monitoring the baby, we were waiting for my doctor to come in and as soon as she came in she said the baby’s heart rate is dropping so we have to do an emergency c section RIGHT NOW!
Like HOLD UP, WHAT?????? I thought they were honestly going to send me back home and tell me that it was probably what I had to eat and that it would soon be over. Bryant and I looked at each other like “Damn, it’s happening now!!” So they rush me to another room to prep for surgery and I’m rushing Bryant to call my Mom, by this time it was around 6 am I believe. We go into the operating room and the last thing I remember is shaking because it was so cold inside and just praying that everything would be okay. I was completely out and next thing, I’m waking up and I hear my baby crying in the background and I look over and Bryant is there holding her and him just saying, “everything is okay, she’s a healthy baby.” My sweet Delilah was born April 21, 2019, a strong and healthy beautiful baby.
My original plan was to have a natural birth but things don’t always go as planned and I was completely okay with that as long as my baby came into this world safe. You have to go with the flow and being a mom in such a short amount of time, I’ve learned so much and I know I will continue to learn more each day and that’s the beauty of it all. I didn’t get the epidural so now I’m just home resting and trying to recover from the surgery.
I want to say THANK YOU to my friends and family for being there and showing so much support in my time of need. The amount of love that Delilah has been getting is so beautiful to see, she’s my baby girl and I love her so much.
To all my expecting mamas out there, go with the flow and things will happen how they’re supposed to. I can’t wait for this new journey ahead and it’s only the beginning.
Hi babes, I’m FINALLY getting around to sharing my baby shower photos, I am a month late but here I am. I want to say thank you to my family and Bryant’s family as well for being a huge help to us and for the beautiful day we all spent together!
It was a crazy time as Bryant and I were moving into our new place all while planning our baby shower but I couldn’t have pictured it any other way. Spring in LA can be tricky because that’s when we randomly get cooler weather, it rains here and there or it’s windy. I was so worried because it was consistently raining every weekend before my baby shower and I didn’t have a second plan to follow so I was super lucky because that day the weather was warm and sunny!!
I wanted the decorations to be simple again just like my gender reveal and of course all DIY projects that my family and Bryant’s were able to help with. I was going to wait and share my baby girls name until after she was born but it’s so special to my heart so I went ahead and shared it at my baby shower.
The food was BOMB.com, both families cooked amazing dishes and we had food for days! My parents are from El Salvador and Nicaragua and both of Bryant’s parents are from Nicaragua so you can only imagine how good everything was! I originally wanted to go all out for my baby shower because that’s just the extra attitude in me but quickly changed my mind to have something more intimate as both families are huge plus it was all I really needed to have this special time. (I had a separate baby shower with friends, so still got to be extra! LOL)
I am so grateful for all of the gifts we received and we pretty much got everything that was on our registry. It’s so crazy and surreal to think how fast my pregnancy has gone by because it feels like it was yesterday when I found out I was pregnant and here I am now, a couple of weeks away from giving birth to my baby girl! She moves like crazy and it’s definitely going to be a bittersweet moment when I no longer have her in my belly but I’m also so excited and can’t wait to have her in my arms!
This journey is different for every mom but I have to give thanks for blessed I’ve been throughout this experience because it’s been easy to say the least, I’ve been able to workout throughout my whole pregnancy so all of this has been such an empowering moment.
I’ve also met sooooo many moms on Instagram who are currently pregnant or already have kids and it’s been awesome that we’ve been able to make these connections and give each other advice. I’m proud to be part of the mommy tribe so thank you to everyone who has been so helpful and genuinely care!
Delilah will be here very soon and I can’t wait to be the best mom I can be for her! I will continue to share this new journey even after she’s born. Stay tuned!
Hi babes, are you going through a life transition where you just moved in with your significant other? You recently got engaged and planning a wedding? Maybe you moved away from friends and family? You’re chasing your dreams and in my case it’s stepping into motherhood. The list goes on and on but you’re probably sitting there wondering what happened to your friends who were always there before? Hmm…
There are so many life transitions that one can go through and after listening to https://www.instagram.com/melissamolinaro/ Instagram story last week about having life transitions and seeing a shift in the people in your life who might leave you behind or kind of forget about you because of that transition you’re going through. Listening to her story really hit home and I was like yasssss girl, preach!!!!
Being that it hit home, it inspired me to write a blog post on it and of course base it on my own transitions. As you all know I am currently expecting my baby girl but before that, I was still living at home with my parents. If you come from a traditional latino household then you know how close we are to our families and we don’t move out until we get married or in my case taking that step to move in with my significant other and get ready for our baby to arrive. You can only imagine how all of these transitions were happening all at once. I moved in with my boyfriend which is great because now we were finally under one roof but at the same time I was missing my family. I’ve always been used to having my family around and I was now living an hour away from them and on top of that my hormones were everywhere from my pregnancy so you can only imagine how emotional I was feeling! LOL (btw, Bryant should win a medal for how he was able to deal with me being a cry baby)
Getting a little more into detail about what Melissa Molinaro was saying in her IG story, you see a shift in people when you are going through a transition. Melissa Molinaro is a new mommy herself and killing it, as she was saying just because you’re a new mommy you shouldn’t get left behind and forgotten by your friends and as soon as she said that, I was like YASSSSS girl!!! This is so true and I’ve seen it first hand with friends who have stopped reaching out. Why? Because I can’t go out and drink/ party?
My baby isn’t here yet but being pregnant doesn’t mean I can’t have fun without drinking. I might say no to certain things because I’m tired and literally falling asleep but having those friends who invite you anyway is important and shows a lot in their character of being a true friend. Like Melissa was saying, instead of assuming “oh, she’s a mom now so she’s going to say no” it’s important to be there for your friend who is going through any kind of life transition. I believe in being a real friend but if someone is only showing 50% then I call it like I see it and I choose to distance myself. I’ve seen this a lot throughout my pregnancy and I know it will continue as I transition into motherhood when my baby arrives so I want to say thank you to my friends who still make the effort to hang out, who continue to check in and make me feel like I haven’t been forgotten and left behind.
Any kind of life transition is already life changing so you want to make sure you have positive vibes around you! So with all of that being said, let’s kill it this week and reach our goals.
Hiiiii babes! I can’t believe I am now 34 weeks, my pregnancy journey flew by but it has been a great experience and definitely something to remember.
I love sharing my journey whether it’s good or bad and always bring it back to being positive through it all. I have to mention that my pregnancy has been easy compared to other stories I’ve heard so I’m very grateful for that.
I worked out for most of my pregnancy and now that I’m in my third trimester it has been a little more difficult to move around, my feet are beginning to get swollen and I haven’t been to the gym in about three weeks. It’s been a little difficult for me to accept that being that I would hit the gym 4-5 times a week but I’ve been listening to my body and trying to rest as much as possible. I’m only weeks away from giving birth to my baby girl and OMG let me tell you, I am excited and nervous at the same time!
I am definitely a planner and I like to have to things in order and ready to go or else I feel like I’m going crazy! LOL
This journey though, has taught me to go with the flow but most of all to be positive and grateful for everything that I’m going through because I’m getting the best reward at the end of it all!
I’m so happy to say that one thing I have stayed consistent with during my pregnancy has been creating content and styling my bump, it makes me happy to see the changes in my body and it’s something I can look back on and show my baby girl.
One thing I have noticed when I’m out shooting new content are the stares I get from other people and I won’t lie, at first it made me feel self conscious as my bump was growing but I quickly snapped out of it and learned not to care about the stares because my precious baby is growing inside and it’s a true gift to experience. I love embracing my bump and it makes me so happy when people take the time out of their day to give me a compliment in public as I’m shooting content and puts a big smile on my face. Always be kind!
This is a message to everyone, even if you’re not currently pregnant you should ALWAYS embrace your body type no matter what. Don’t be shy to wear that cute dress you have in your closet, those shorts you’ve been dying to wear etc. Do you babe and build that self confidence!!!
I want to take a minute to thank my girl gang for showing so much love throughout my pregnancy, I’m all about real connections and sharing that girl power! My girls threw me a cute little baby shower last week and OMG the weather was amazing!
We had such a fun time at the cutest place with rooftop vibes making me super happy for summer to come! I even got myself my first mocktail and it was YUMMY! The girls made me feel so loved and special, we’re all excited for baby Delilah to come! I linked their IG’s down below, give them a follow because they’re all boss babes. They all have amazing vibes and energies and how crazy is it to connect all because of social media!
Hi babes, are you a blogger/influencer who wants to get out there and mingle?! No, I don’t mean to date…LOL I mean when it comes to meeting other blogger babes or collaborating in general, going to events etc. My answer to that is JUST DO IT!
I remember in the beginning when I did my first couple of collaborations (going out to shoot with photographers and brands) I would get so nervous that sometimes I was so close to backing out and just saying I couldn’t make it!
It’s so easy to say no and turn down an opportunity but there are greater things that come with saying yes and following through. By saying yes to opportunities, you learn so much about yourself, what you like/dislike and the most important in my opinion is creating new relationships with people who have the same passion and ambition as yourself!
A couple of months ago, I put together a blogger brunch with six other girls and it all started with the idea of wanting to meet new babes and feel inspired again. I sat there looking through girls on Instagram that I was already showing love to and getting it in return so I reached out by DM and asked if they wanted to have brunch and we all clicked right away! That’s the beauty when stepping out of your comfort zone, you must be willing to put forward that confidence because if you don’t then no one will have it or show it for you.
Fast forward to now, we all keep in touch and we are in the process of hosting our second #labloggersocial event which is all about meeting new faces and empowering each other.
We shoot content about every weekend since we met and it’s so cool to hit it off with someone who just gets you and is so helpful and genuine, so the purpose to all of this is to get out of your comfort zone! You want to be able to grow and meet new people out there, if it doesn’t work out that’s perfectly fine but it’s all a process in learning new things about yourself.
Mayra and I decided to wear a similar duster to show how it can be styled two ways and as a transition into spring.
My outfit details:
Duster via Romwe / Dress via Femmelux / Boots: Target