what NOT to do for Valentine’s Day!

It’s the week of Valentine’s Day, and the big question is…what will you be doing on that special day?

There are tons of ideas out there on where to go eat, gifting guides etc. but I will be sharing some past experiences as well as what you should NOT do only because I want to keep things realistic and easier for all of my couples out there!

Past experiences:

You all know how extra AF I am so in the past this included Valentine’s Day as well. I would put tons of pressure on Bryant year after year on what we would be doing because I wanted to get nice and dolled up but it was never realistic guys!!! Bryant and I would try going on fancy dinners and EVERY single place was always packed and most restaurants don’t even take reservations! I always remember one year specifically where we went to a Peruvian restaurant (which is my FAVORITE food everrrr) I was starving and ready to order my favorite dish but as we got there the wait was over an hour long so we ended up having dinner around 10-10:30 pm!! Like WTF! That’s just so insane to me and I remember being so grumpy, my stomach was growling, thank god Bryant is the opposite of me because he knows how to just laugh things off and go with the flow!

After that year I learned my lesson, I told Bryant he was right and that we should do more low-key things instead of trying to go the fancy route. The following year, I remember we had a sushi date to our favorite restaurant which is a hole in the wall but the longest we had to wait was about 20-30 mins which is a normal wait time like any other day and a better alternative to any fancy restaurant that will be a hassle to get into.

Since then, we have been getting better with our options and I no longer put all of the pressure on Bryant to plan something extravagant, I can just be extra myself any other day! LOL

This year: I am keeping things super low-key with Bryant, baby girl is on the way and being that I am currently 27 weeks, I get tired easily so we are doing something during the day instead (so happy we both got the day off) probably start off with the gym, grab lunch and be out and about for a little, order take out for dinner and watch a movie which is perfect for me! Oh and the best part is that we are getting pedicures together so I’m excited for that!

Don’t:

  • don’t stress about big plans
  • don’t go to big restaurants or wait for dinner (it’s the busiest time)
  • don’t fall for the hype on this day just because you see others doing something (no fomo)

Do:

  • find alternatives to do something special at home
  • something to do during the day
  • make it special in your own way

I hope you all have a good Valentine’s Day! If you don’t have a boyfriend, grab your girlfriends and get together for drinks, a movie or anything else that comes up!

5 things they didn’t mention about being a influencer/ blogger…

Hi babes, are you a influencer/ blogger or maybe looking to get started? Well I’m here to share five things they forgot to mention…

I’m going to share some tips and a quick story on how I started back in 2014 and OMG I can’t believe it’s been that long!

The number one question I always get asked, even to this day is how did I start blogging?

I simply started taking pictures of my outfits but it was so different back then, I had my first blog on blogspot and I remember uploading 10-15 pictures of the same outfit and describing my thought process on how I paired everything together which is INSANE you guys! I look back and see how much things have changed. My blog has shifted to a lifestyle brand and fashion will always be a part of me so I still post my outfits daily on Instagram.

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  1. Time and effort for creating content
  • I would say one of the most important things when being a influencer/ blogger is taking the time and effort to create content. I have noticed a huge difference in my content and the quality of it. I’ve always bounced back and forth with using my phone and camera for pictures but for the past year and a half, my pictures have all been taken from my iPhone 7 Plus. You don’t need a fancy camera, you need good angles and good lighting, this has become my preference and it’s so much more convenient and feels more authentic to me.

2. Having tough skin

  • It’s important to be vulnerable and show emotion but at the same time I believe that being a influencer/ blogger, you must have tough skin because you’re exposing your life for everyone to see and not just that but your creative side. Before I decided to take the plunge into the blogger world, I was definitely a little nervous of how I was going to be perceived especially because there were already so many other bloggers out there. In that moment I remember saying, “I’m doing this for myself and because it’s something I love!” As the years have passed, I have grown in so many ways but I still remain with the same idea of doing this for myself because it truly is a passion of mine. The world can be a scary place but you can’t let that hold you back, so I challenge you to get out there and be fearless!

3. Create your own path

  • This is another huge tip in my book that I feel a lot of people forget to mention, I’m such a firm believer of doing what fits YOUR style and growing that into your brand and what defines you. When I started blogging I had around 1k followers and I remember comparing my Instagram to other girls who had way more followers and I found myself quickly realizing it just didn’t work for me. At the time, a lot of bloggers were posting flat lays of their outfits so I thought it was what I had to do in order to gain a following which then turned into stress/pressure to keep up with the same concept and forcing content that wasn’t me at all. I began cleaning out my Instagram and went back to focusing on my outfits. I’ve stayed true to my style since then which I would consider to be affordable yet stylish for the girl next door, it’s relatable which is 100% me! So what might work for someone else doesn’t mean it will work for you, follow your gut and your passion despite what anyone else is saying or doing, you got this!

4. Be consistent

  • You have to be consistent no matter what if you want to be a influencer/ blogger. People want to see their brand grow but slack off so you have to ask yourself if this is something you really want to dive into? When I started blogging back in 2014 I would post about three times a week and recently started posting once a week because I want quality content as I mentioned earlier, my blog has shifted into more of a lifestyle brand which includes fashion, fitness, places where you can eat and go out to. So although things have shifted and expanded into other areas, the consistency has always been there. Instagram is where I post daily and I love interacting through my stories so that people can feel like they can relate because I am just a regular girl. As your audience grows, they want to see your journey and follow along so being consistent is important. I’ve unfollowed tons of people who are not consistent on social media because it makes me feel like they don’t take it as serious. Remember that people follow you because they look forward to pictures, tips, etc.

5. Your time will come

  • I want to leave you all with this last point to leave things on a good note, to inspire you because there is no need to rush or compare your journey with someone else’s success. As clich√© as it sounds, it truly helps when you keep doing you and most importantly having fun with it!! Being a blogger/influencer is meant to share YOUR passion, not to please others or imitate others. This shouldn’t feel as pressure to anyone because it defeats the entire purpose of it all. I quickly learned to go at my own pace and even though I don’t have a huge following like other influencers do, I still keep going because I’m doing it for the right reasons. I love connecting with others and being a open book because we’re all unique in our own special way.

I hope you enjoyed this post and found it helpful, you can always leave a comment here, a DM via Instagram or a simple email if you want to chat it up!