life transitions+ getting left behind

Hi babes, are you going through a life transition where you just moved in with your significant other? You recently got engaged and planning a wedding? Maybe you moved away from friends and family? You’re chasing your dreams and in my case it’s stepping into motherhood. The list goes on and on but you’re probably sitting there wondering what happened to your friends who were always there before? Hmm…

There are so many life transitions that one can go through and after listening to https://www.instagram.com/melissamolinaro/ Instagram story last week about having life transitions and seeing a shift in the people in your life who might leave you behind or kind of forget about you because of that transition you’re going through. Listening to her story really hit home and I was like yasssss girl, preach!!!!

Being that it hit home, it inspired me to write a blog post on it and of course base it on my own transitions. As you all know I am currently expecting my baby girl but before that, I was still living at home with my parents. If you come from a traditional latino household then you know how close we are to our families and we don’t move out until we get married or in my case taking that step to move in with my significant other and get ready for our baby to arrive. You can only imagine how all of these transitions were happening all at once. I moved in with my boyfriend which is great because now we were finally under one roof but at the same time I was missing my family. I’ve always been used to having my family around and I was now living an hour away from them and on top of that my hormones were everywhere from my pregnancy so you can only imagine how emotional I was feeling! LOL (btw, Bryant should win a medal for how he was able to deal with me being a cry baby)

Getting a little more into detail about what Melissa Molinaro was saying in her IG story, you see a shift in people when you are going through a transition. Melissa Molinaro is a new mommy herself and killing it, as she was saying just because you’re a new mommy you shouldn’t get left behind and forgotten by your friends and as soon as she said that, I was like YASSSSS girl!!! This is so true and I’ve seen it first hand with friends who have stopped reaching out. Why? Because I can’t go out and drink/ party?

My baby isn’t here yet but being pregnant doesn’t mean I can’t have fun without drinking. I might say no to certain things because I’m tired and literally falling asleep but having those friends who invite you anyway is important and shows a lot in their character of being a true friend. Like Melissa was saying, instead of assuming “oh, she’s a mom now so she’s going to say no” it’s important to be there for your friend who is going through any kind of life transition. I believe in being a real friend but if someone is only showing 50% then I call it like I see it and I choose to distance myself. I’ve seen this a lot throughout my pregnancy and I know it will continue as I transition into motherhood when my baby arrives so I want to say thank you to my friends who still make the effort to hang out, who continue to check in and make me feel like I haven’t been forgotten and left behind.

Any kind of life transition is already life changing so you want to make sure you have positive vibes around you! So with all of that being said, let’s kill it this week and reach our goals.

pregnancy journey and feeling positive

Hiiiii babes! I can’t believe I am now 34 weeks, my pregnancy journey flew by but it has been a great experience and definitely something to remember.

I love sharing my journey whether it’s good or bad and always bring it back to being positive through it all. I have to mention that my pregnancy has been easy compared to other stories I’ve heard so I’m very grateful for that.

I worked out for most of my pregnancy and now that I’m in my third trimester it has been a little more difficult to move around, my feet are beginning to get swollen and I haven’t been to the gym in about three weeks. It’s been a little difficult for me to accept that being that I would hit the gym 4-5 times a week but I’ve been listening to my body and trying to rest as much as possible. I’m only weeks away from giving birth to my baby girl and OMG let me tell you, I am excited and nervous at the same time!

I am definitely a planner and I like to have to things in order and ready to go or else I feel like I’m going crazy! LOL

This journey though, has taught me to go with the flow but most of all to be positive and grateful for everything that I’m going through because I’m getting the best reward at the end of it all!

I’m so happy to say that one thing I have stayed consistent with during my pregnancy has been creating content and styling my bump, it makes me happy to see the changes in my body and it’s something I can look back on and show my baby girl.

One thing I have noticed when I’m out shooting new content are the stares I get from other people and I won’t lie, at first it made me feel self conscious as my bump was growing but I quickly snapped out of it and learned not to care about the stares because my precious baby is growing inside and it’s a true gift to experience. I love embracing my bump and it makes me so happy when people take the time out of their day to give me a compliment in public as I’m shooting content and puts a big smile on my face. Always be kind!

This is a message to everyone, even if you’re not currently pregnant you should ALWAYS embrace your body type no matter what. Don’t be shy to wear that cute dress you have in your closet, those shorts you’ve been dying to wear etc. Do you babe and build that self confidence!!!

I want to take a minute to thank my girl gang for showing so much love throughout my pregnancy, I’m all about real connections and sharing that girl power! My girls threw me a cute little baby shower last week and OMG the weather was amazing!

We had such a fun time at the cutest place with rooftop vibes making me super happy for summer to come! I even got myself my first mocktail and it was YUMMY! The girls made me feel so loved and special, we’re all excited for baby Delilah to come! I linked their IG’s down below, give them a follow because they’re all boss babes. They all have amazing vibes and energies and how crazy is it to connect all because of social media!


IG’s in order from left to right as seen in photo

https://www.instagram.com/elsaa_xo/

https://www.instagram.com/im_lola__/

https://www.instagram.com/stylewithrosiee/

https://www.instagram.com/styledbymay_/

https://www.instagram.com/trynfinddebby/

Wearing this beautiful dress via https://www.instagram.com/shoppinkblush/

They have the cutest maternity clothing, even if you’re not pregnant you can still wear their beautiful dresses, I have a similar white maxi from this brand as well.

getting out of your comfort zone!

Hi babes, are you a blogger/influencer who wants to get out there and mingle?! No, I don’t mean to date…LOL I mean when it comes to meeting other blogger babes or collaborating in general, going to events etc. My answer to that is JUST DO IT!

I remember in the beginning when I did my first couple of collaborations (going out to shoot with photographers and brands) I would get so nervous that sometimes I was so close to backing out and just saying I couldn’t make it!

It’s so easy to say no and turn down an opportunity but there are greater things that come with saying yes and following through. By saying yes to opportunities, you learn so much about yourself, what you like/dislike and the most important in my opinion is creating new relationships with people who have the same passion and ambition as yourself!

A couple of months ago, I put together a blogger brunch with six other girls and it all started with the idea of wanting to meet new babes and feel inspired again. I sat there looking through girls on Instagram that I was already showing love to and getting it in return so I reached out by DM and asked if they wanted to have brunch and we all clicked right away! That’s the beauty when stepping out of your comfort zone, you must be willing to put forward that confidence because if you don’t then no one will have it or show it for you.

Fast forward to now, we all keep in touch and we are in the process of hosting our second #labloggersocial event which is all about meeting new faces and empowering each other.

From our initial brunch, I began shooting with my friend Mayra who is the blogger behind https://www.instagram.com/styledbymay_/

We shoot content about every weekend since we met and it’s so cool to hit it off with someone who just gets you and is so helpful and genuine, so the purpose to all of this is to get out of your comfort zone! You want to be able to grow and meet new people out there, if it doesn’t work out that’s perfectly fine but it’s all a process in learning new things about yourself.

Mayra and I decided to wear a similar duster to show how it can be styled two ways and as a transition into spring.

My outfit details:

Duster via Romwe / Dress via Femmelux / Boots: Target

https://www.instagram.com/styledbymay_/

Outfit details:

Duster: Forever 21 / Skirt: Shein / Chunky crop: Femmelux / Boots: Target

It’s all about empowering each other as women, supporting each other because we’re all boss babes!


Pregnancy Workout Routine

Heyyyy babes, omg I’ve gotten so many questions on what my workout routine is especially now that I’m pregnant because I find myself still living at the gym! What can I say, I love a good workout session!!

I can’t believe how time is just flying by because I am halfway through my pregnancy! Like what???!

But let’s get down to business…before my pregnancy I was hitting the gym and lifting heavy weights about 4-5 times a week, once I found out I was pregnant (around 6 weeks) I had to adjust my workouts completely to focus on the baby and I had to take it easy which meant no more pre workout to give me that extra boost of energy and also meant not being able to lift even half of the weight I was doing before. I’m going to be completely honest, it was a little difficult for me at first on all kinds of levels because I’ve always been used to pushing myself and increasing my weights to build muscle so I had to learn very quick how to mentally prepare myself that everything was going to take a turn and be more about staying active to maintain and have a healthy pregnancy.

My first trimester was easy because I didn’t have any nausea but I found myself uninspired to hit the gym because I noticed my body changing drastically so even though I didn’t share these moments on social media, I tried pushing myself to make it to the gym at least three times a week. What I found that worked for me was following fitness accounts on Instagram like https://www.instagram.com/fit.with.iulia/

https://www.instagram.com/yanyahgotitmade/

https://www.instagram.com/hopeisabelhoward/

just to name a few, they are all so badass who are also moms! Now more than ever it gives me that extra motivation to keep going. I have daily affirmations where I tell myself that being a mom is a beautiful journey and I will be back to my own fitness journey after having the baby. I am learning to embrace these changes and now that I’m not in that awkward stage of just looking bloated, I am fully proud to show my baby bump.

So here we are now, six months in and I’m doing the best I can to stay active especially because I heard it’s easier when it comes to the delivery and to bounce back as well so I’m all for it!!

Once I got into my second trimester I got tons of energy back, I wasn’t sleeping as much anymore so I bumped things up by going to the gym 4-5 times a week and I feel great now. I still have plenty of moments where I want to say no because it’s too cold, I’d rather stay in bed etc. The list can go on and on but at the end of the day they’re just excuses so I’ve made it a point to write what I’m going to workout each day in my planner and I just make it happen!

Current workout routine: (I will write an example of what my schedule looks like to make it easier)

Monday: (leg day)

  • Stair master 5-10 minutes then stretch / 8-9 exercises (I can’t use certain machines so I have to be very creative but I do a variety of exercises to target my hamstrings, quads and the good ol booty)

Tuesday: Cardio+Shoulders

  • Treadmill 15 minutes followed by shoulders (I like to use both, machines and use weights)

Wednesday: Cardio+Chest day

  • Treadmill 15 minutes followed by chest ( machines and weights)

Thursday: Cardio+Bicep/Triceps

  • Treadmill 15 minutes followed by arm workout (machines and weights)

Friday: Leg Day (same as above)

Saturday & Sunday: If i missed a day during the week then I come during the weekend and of course I make sure to have a rest day as well.

YouTube is a great way to learn different exercises and so much easier to follow along to get the right form and perfect to get a variety of exercises to make sure you’re switching it up!

To all my beautiful mama’s out there, you got this and it’s never too late to start!

**All of my workout clothes is from Forever 21, I sized up on my leggings to a size large and they are definitely squat proof! Tops are size small and medium.

all about girl power!

I hope everyone started 2019 off on a good note, I wanted to start off big so as you all know by now I announced my pregnancy on the 1st of January! I want to say THANK YOU because the amount of love I have been receiving is unreal!!! I am so grateful because I have made awesome connections that truly fill my heart with happiness which brings up my next topic…GIRL POWER!

I am all about having girl power and I wanted to take a moment and dive into this topic because now more than ever we spend most of our time on social media. We make friends or we feel like we know someone else because they are so relatable which is one of my favorite things about the social media world. I have met so many awesome and powerful women throughout the years and have had amazing opportunities because Instagram is a huge platform.

To me girl power is showing genuine love to someone else even through something as simple as commenting on their picture. When I use the word “genuine” I am referring to keeping it 100! If I see a picture that caught my eye, I give it a like and comment as well. If someone took the time to write a caption then I read it and comment something based on that. Why? Because it’s about creating a connection! I can spot a fake or half-ass comment from a mile away so showing some girl power comes with being genuine.

On the other hand, a lot of bloggers/influencers I follow keep their captions pretty simple, in those cases I like to hype up my girls. If they look bomb AF I let that be known, or comment something based on their outfit, the point is to show love. You can’t expect to be a influencer and only receive love because it goes both ways! If people take the time to stop by your page to show love and hype you up then make it a point to get back to everyone even if it’s a simple thank you but let them know that you acknowledged their comment.

Before 2018 ended I decided to step out of my comfort zone as I made it one of my goals for 2019 so I said why not start early so I planned a brunch and invited other influencers! I took the time to really notice what girls I was interacting with on Instagram and who was taking the time to show some real girl power and reached out to them via DM. To my surprise, almost all of the girls I reached out to were able to make it except for one or two. I put us all into a group chat, we decided on a place and time to meet and it was AMAZING! All of the girls had a good vibe and I could just feel the good energy all around us as we complimented each other, we were able to relate on so many levels and just have a good time! It’s crazy how all of that is possible with the power of social media. To this day, we all constantly show love to each other on Instagram, I’ve seen some of the girls that continue meeting up and as have I which makes me so happy!!!

I have added their Instagram handles as shown in the picture from left to right, check out their awesome pages and give them a follow!

https://www.instagram.com/mrs_emontano/

https://www.instagram.com/madlystyled/

https://www.instagram.com/mackennarae/

https://www.instagram.com/stylewithrosiee/

https://www.instagram.com/styledbymay_/

https://www.instagram.com/trynfinddebby/

I’ve been to plenty of blogger events where I start seeing the same group of girls and you would think that being a influencer would make you friendly but instead they are stuck up which is the total opposite of what they portray on social media. There is room for everyone out there and we’re all unique in our own special way so instead of competing let’s show some love and be all about girl power!

I am in the LA area and I definitely want to plan another brunch to get some badass babes together so if you’re in the area don’t be shy and let’s connect! I live for coffee dates, brunch or even getting together to shoot!

Follow me on Instagram if you don’t already! https://www.instagram.com/segagenesis_/

goals for 2019

Hi babes, are you ready for the new year? What are your new goals? I definitely believe it’s important to reflect on the past year to see how far you’ve come and set new goals and continue to grow. A lot can change in a year even when it seems like you have the same routine everyday. 

Continue reading below as I share my new goals for 2019.

So excited to share my goals for the new year because I finally finished my vision board last night with my best friend which feels amazing to recharge and look ahead at everything I’m going to get done! (Manifest and it will happen because no one has time for doubts!)

GOALS

  1. Healthier food choices 

I’m not talking about going on a strict diet so let’s get that straight!! LOL… I loveeee food you guys so this goal means I will still indulge every now and then with my favorite foods BUT instead of saying yes to everything (sweets, carbs, junk food) or buying out because I’m lazy to cook is definitely going to change by meal prepping and staying consistent.

2. Gym 5-6 times a week

I know this sounds insane but trust me when I tell you it’s definitely possible and I know that because I’ve done it before. I’ve always had an active lifestyle and I have a deep love for sports and being competitive because I love challenging myself. I slowly went from going to the gym 5-6 times a week to 3-4 which is still good but it’s not my full potential. I’m going to get back on top of things and I bought a calendar specifically to write down my workouts for each day and to help keep me on check. I enjoy lifting and seeing results, feeling strong makes me feel like a total badass so I’m excited to start over.

3. Travel more (here in the U.S)

My first trip of 2019 will be San Fransisco which I’m excited because I’ve never been (I can’t believe it either) I can’t wait to explore and get some fun and creative shots to look back on AND for the gram! Haha… The reason why I want to start off exploring the United States first is because there are so many states I want to visit and dream about, of course I wouldn’t be opposed to a trip outside of the U.S if the opportunity arises but some places I have in mind are New York, Chicago, New Orleans, South Carolina among other states but just so you get an idea!

4. Create meaningful content

This is extremely important to me because I want to connect with you guys on a different level. I might be a “blogger/influencer” but I’m totally relatable and I want you all to feel that way. This goal means putting out genuine and REAL content, good quality and being the best version of myself. This goes for all of my platforms like Instagram, YouTube and my blog. I want it to be more than just fashion, I want to share my tips and trips to EVERYTHING so I always encourage you to send me a DM on instagram https://www.instagram.com/segagenesis_/  I love chatting with you babes and answering your comments as well!

5. Explore new spots to eat

I have actually already started exploring recently and I kind of always have but for the new year I want to explore even more. I love saving locations on Instagram like coffee shops, resta even cute places to go for dessert. I usually stay in my comfort zone when it comes to food because I always end up picking the SAME spots to go eat but enough of that because it’s staying behind with 2018. I love locations that have a good aesthetic/decor because it makes me feel inspired to shoot creative and fresh content while eating which is a win/win situation. LOL

6. Spend less time on phone

This is a huge goal for me because I ALWAYS catch myself checking/responding to emails throughout the day or scrolling through instagram for no reason which isn’t productive at all. I am going to set a time each day for emails to get them out of the way and I’m going to cut my time in half on social media. I love engaging with others which is obviously not going to change but instead put my time to better use to get shit done instead of sitting back and scrolling through pictures.

7. Spend quality time with family

This coincides with spending less time on my phone, I want to be present in the moment and spend quality time with my family. It’s so easy to get caught up in a daily routine or make time for friends and be selfish with your time but I am making a conscious effort to turn that around. I have spent less time being out with others and more time making plans with family and it’s heartwarming. For the new year I plan on doing more of that and include my family with anything I have going on or simply just stay in to spend time with them.

8. A positive mindset

This is definitely a challenge at times because it’s so easy to create doubt and worry about a million little things that really have no importance at all. I am slowly learning to be more positive and I’ve learned that worrying isn’t going to change the future so being positive and hopeful is the only way to go. I’m always one to keep it real with anyone and especially with myself which I plan on doing not only for 2019 but forever. I have learned that good vibes are the most important to surround yourself with to have a positive mindset and that’s why I preach about cutting anything negative out of your life whether it’s people, habits or your lifestyle in order to turn things around for the better.

9. Stop procrastinating

OMG!!!! I’m one of the biggest procrastinators everrrrr and although I do work well under pressure, I hate putting things off especially when it comes to errands. For the new year I plan on creating to do lists for the week to make myself accountable to get things done and to STOP being lazy!

10. New job

This is one of the biggest goals and challenges I will have in 2019 and I am more than ready for it. I plan on getting a new job for the new year because I believe one should be happy when they go to work and if you don’t feel that way then you need to get yourself out!!! I finished school in May 2017 and I was lucky to have found a job soon after that had certain characteristics I was looking for like a flexible schedule and being close to home but I also found myself becoming lazy and not challenging myself and as many would stay because it’s “easy” that isn’t enough for me. I’m going to do my research and push myself to get out there and keep moving on up!

Ahhhhh so here are my top 10 goals for 2019 and I will definitely be sharing my progress with you all because I already have a lot of changes happening so watch out because your girl is here to kill it!!! I would love to hear your goals for the new year so comment below or let me know on Instagram! You can also subscribe to my blog by entering your email on my home page and be the first to know when a new post goes live!