life transitions+ getting left behind

Hi babes, are you going through a life transition where you just moved in with your significant other? You recently got engaged and planning a wedding? Maybe you moved away from friends and family? You’re chasing your dreams and in my case it’s stepping into motherhood. The list goes on and on but you’re probably sitting there wondering what happened to your friends who were always there before? Hmm…

There are so many life transitions that one can go through and after listening to https://www.instagram.com/melissamolinaro/ Instagram story last week about having life transitions and seeing a shift in the people in your life who might leave you behind or kind of forget about you because of that transition you’re going through. Listening to her story really hit home and I was like yasssss girl, preach!!!!

Being that it hit home, it inspired me to write a blog post on it and of course base it on my own transitions. As you all know I am currently expecting my baby girl but before that, I was still living at home with my parents. If you come from a traditional latino household then you know how close we are to our families and we don’t move out until we get married or in my case taking that step to move in with my significant other and get ready for our baby to arrive. You can only imagine how all of these transitions were happening all at once. I moved in with my boyfriend which is great because now we were finally under one roof but at the same time I was missing my family. I’ve always been used to having my family around and I was now living an hour away from them and on top of that my hormones were everywhere from my pregnancy so you can only imagine how emotional I was feeling! LOL (btw, Bryant should win a medal for how he was able to deal with me being a cry baby)

Getting a little more into detail about what Melissa Molinaro was saying in her IG story, you see a shift in people when you are going through a transition. Melissa Molinaro is a new mommy herself and killing it, as she was saying just because you’re a new mommy you shouldn’t get left behind and forgotten by your friends and as soon as she said that, I was like YASSSSS girl!!! This is so true and I’ve seen it first hand with friends who have stopped reaching out. Why? Because I can’t go out and drink/ party?

My baby isn’t here yet but being pregnant doesn’t mean I can’t have fun without drinking. I might say no to certain things because I’m tired and literally falling asleep but having those friends who invite you anyway is important and shows a lot in their character of being a true friend. Like Melissa was saying, instead of assuming “oh, she’s a mom now so she’s going to say no” it’s important to be there for your friend who is going through any kind of life transition. I believe in being a real friend but if someone is only showing 50% then I call it like I see it and I choose to distance myself. I’ve seen this a lot throughout my pregnancy and I know it will continue as I transition into motherhood when my baby arrives so I want to say thank you to my friends who still make the effort to hang out, who continue to check in and make me feel like I haven’t been forgotten and left behind.

Any kind of life transition is already life changing so you want to make sure you have positive vibes around you! So with all of that being said, let’s kill it this week and reach our goals.