transition into motherhood

Hi babes, OMG has it been a crazy couple of weeks to say the least! For those who read my last post, I shared my labor story and now I am here to share my journey and how it’s been transitioning into motherhood.

It has been a little over a month now since having my baby girl and time is flying right by!

I am more than happy to share my fitness journey post baby as many of you have mentioned to me that you want to see my progress. You all know I love a good gym session and although I haven’t been cleared to workout yet, I can’t wait to go back! I watch tons of workout videos and I’m excited for when that day comes where I can lift again because it’s my happy place.

I will be sharing photos of my weekly updates so you can all see my transformation. This first month has been all about letting my body heal on its own. The doctor specifically said not to go on a diet which hasn’t been a problem for me because I don’t believe in diets, I try to eat as healthy as possible but I also enjoy my cheat meals every now and then.

This transition into motherhood has taught me not to be hard on myself and has helped me realize that I shouldn’t focus so much on trying to get my body back because when the time comes, I’ll be able to workout again. I have never been one to obsess over losing weight, for me it’s a lifestyle and I enjoy working out and lifting weights so all I can do for now is be patient. It has been a vulnerable stage in my life as so much has changed in the blink of an eye with the arrival of my baby, it’s a completely new lifestyle which I am grateful for because I am no longer selfish and I am now putting someone else before myself. This month has also taught me to be more of a positive person and to enjoy the moment because we’ll never get that time back.

I learn something new everyday and I thank my baby for that, I can only imagine how much more I will learn as she continues to grow.

It’s crazy that for the last 9-10 months, I’ve had tons of cravings and I was saying yes to eating whatever I wanted. Now that it’s been a little over a month postpartum, I am more conscious of my eating habits especially because I am not cleared to workout yet.

As you can see in the picture down below, each photo was taken every week to show my progress of my stomach going down. In the first picture, I still look pregnant, I was still swollen all over my body due to my c section. My incision still feels tender but it’s slowly healing and I feel so much better now as time is going by. I am not ashamed to share these photos because it reminds me that I just had a baby and she grew beautifully inside throughout my pregnancy. It’s amazing what the body can do and I’m excited to share what the body can do after having a baby.

I am strong and hopeful, as a woman and I am here to say that anything is possible and it’s important to keep pushing and to remain positive even through the bad days!

If you have any questions or anything else you want me to share, you can email me or reach out via Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gen.styles/ I love chatting it up with you babes!

life transitions+ getting left behind

Hi babes, are you going through a life transition where you just moved in with your significant other? You recently got engaged and planning a wedding? Maybe you moved away from friends and family? You’re chasing your dreams and in my case it’s stepping into motherhood. The list goes on and on but you’re probably sitting there wondering what happened to your friends who were always there before? Hmm…

There are so many life transitions that one can go through and after listening to https://www.instagram.com/melissamolinaro/ Instagram story last week about having life transitions and seeing a shift in the people in your life who might leave you behind or kind of forget about you because of that transition you’re going through. Listening to her story really hit home and I was like yasssss girl, preach!!!!

Being that it hit home, it inspired me to write a blog post on it and of course base it on my own transitions. As you all know I am currently expecting my baby girl but before that, I was still living at home with my parents. If you come from a traditional latino household then you know how close we are to our families and we don’t move out until we get married or in my case taking that step to move in with my significant other and get ready for our baby to arrive. You can only imagine how all of these transitions were happening all at once. I moved in with my boyfriend which is great because now we were finally under one roof but at the same time I was missing my family. I’ve always been used to having my family around and I was now living an hour away from them and on top of that my hormones were everywhere from my pregnancy so you can only imagine how emotional I was feeling! LOL (btw, Bryant should win a medal for how he was able to deal with me being a cry baby)

Getting a little more into detail about what Melissa Molinaro was saying in her IG story, you see a shift in people when you are going through a transition. Melissa Molinaro is a new mommy herself and killing it, as she was saying just because you’re a new mommy you shouldn’t get left behind and forgotten by your friends and as soon as she said that, I was like YASSSSS girl!!! This is so true and I’ve seen it first hand with friends who have stopped reaching out. Why? Because I can’t go out and drink/ party?

My baby isn’t here yet but being pregnant doesn’t mean I can’t have fun without drinking. I might say no to certain things because I’m tired and literally falling asleep but having those friends who invite you anyway is important and shows a lot in their character of being a true friend. Like Melissa was saying, instead of assuming “oh, she’s a mom now so she’s going to say no” it’s important to be there for your friend who is going through any kind of life transition. I believe in being a real friend but if someone is only showing 50% then I call it like I see it and I choose to distance myself. I’ve seen this a lot throughout my pregnancy and I know it will continue as I transition into motherhood when my baby arrives so I want to say thank you to my friends who still make the effort to hang out, who continue to check in and make me feel like I haven’t been forgotten and left behind.

Any kind of life transition is already life changing so you want to make sure you have positive vibes around you! So with all of that being said, let’s kill it this week and reach our goals.

pregnancy journey and feeling positive

Hiiiii babes! I can’t believe I am now 34 weeks, my pregnancy journey flew by but it has been a great experience and definitely something to remember.

I love sharing my journey whether it’s good or bad and always bring it back to being positive through it all. I have to mention that my pregnancy has been easy compared to other stories I’ve heard so I’m very grateful for that.

I worked out for most of my pregnancy and now that I’m in my third trimester it has been a little more difficult to move around, my feet are beginning to get swollen and I haven’t been to the gym in about three weeks. It’s been a little difficult for me to accept that being that I would hit the gym 4-5 times a week but I’ve been listening to my body and trying to rest as much as possible. I’m only weeks away from giving birth to my baby girl and OMG let me tell you, I am excited and nervous at the same time!

I am definitely a planner and I like to have to things in order and ready to go or else I feel like I’m going crazy! LOL

This journey though, has taught me to go with the flow but most of all to be positive and grateful for everything that I’m going through because I’m getting the best reward at the end of it all!

I’m so happy to say that one thing I have stayed consistent with during my pregnancy has been creating content and styling my bump, it makes me happy to see the changes in my body and it’s something I can look back on and show my baby girl.

One thing I have noticed when I’m out shooting new content are the stares I get from other people and I won’t lie, at first it made me feel self conscious as my bump was growing but I quickly snapped out of it and learned not to care about the stares because my precious baby is growing inside and it’s a true gift to experience. I love embracing my bump and it makes me so happy when people take the time out of their day to give me a compliment in public as I’m shooting content and puts a big smile on my face. Always be kind!

This is a message to everyone, even if you’re not currently pregnant you should ALWAYS embrace your body type no matter what. Don’t be shy to wear that cute dress you have in your closet, those shorts you’ve been dying to wear etc. Do you babe and build that self confidence!!!

I want to take a minute to thank my girl gang for showing so much love throughout my pregnancy, I’m all about real connections and sharing that girl power! My girls threw me a cute little baby shower last week and OMG the weather was amazing!

We had such a fun time at the cutest place with rooftop vibes making me super happy for summer to come! I even got myself my first mocktail and it was YUMMY! The girls made me feel so loved and special, we’re all excited for baby Delilah to come! I linked their IG’s down below, give them a follow because they’re all boss babes. They all have amazing vibes and energies and how crazy is it to connect all because of social media!


IG’s in order from left to right as seen in photo

https://www.instagram.com/elsaa_xo/

https://www.instagram.com/im_lola__/

https://www.instagram.com/stylewithrosiee/

https://www.instagram.com/styledbymay_/

https://www.instagram.com/trynfinddebby/

Wearing this beautiful dress via https://www.instagram.com/shoppinkblush/

They have the cutest maternity clothing, even if you’re not pregnant you can still wear their beautiful dresses, I have a similar white maxi from this brand as well.

goals for 2019

Hi babes, are you ready for the new year? What are your new goals? I definitely believe it’s important to reflect on the past year to see how far you’ve come and set new goals and continue to grow. A lot can change in a year even when it seems like you have the same routine everyday. 

Continue reading below as I share my new goals for 2019.

So excited to share my goals for the new year because I finally finished my vision board last night with my best friend which feels amazing to recharge and look ahead at everything I’m going to get done! (Manifest and it will happen because no one has time for doubts!)

GOALS

  1. Healthier food choices 

I’m not talking about going on a strict diet so let’s get that straight!! LOL… I loveeee food you guys so this goal means I will still indulge every now and then with my favorite foods BUT instead of saying yes to everything (sweets, carbs, junk food) or buying out because I’m lazy to cook is definitely going to change by meal prepping and staying consistent.

2. Gym 5-6 times a week

I know this sounds insane but trust me when I tell you it’s definitely possible and I know that because I’ve done it before. I’ve always had an active lifestyle and I have a deep love for sports and being competitive because I love challenging myself. I slowly went from going to the gym 5-6 times a week to 3-4 which is still good but it’s not my full potential. I’m going to get back on top of things and I bought a calendar specifically to write down my workouts for each day and to help keep me on check. I enjoy lifting and seeing results, feeling strong makes me feel like a total badass so I’m excited to start over.

3. Travel more (here in the U.S)

My first trip of 2019 will be San Fransisco which I’m excited because I’ve never been (I can’t believe it either) I can’t wait to explore and get some fun and creative shots to look back on AND for the gram! Haha… The reason why I want to start off exploring the United States first is because there are so many states I want to visit and dream about, of course I wouldn’t be opposed to a trip outside of the U.S if the opportunity arises but some places I have in mind are New York, Chicago, New Orleans, South Carolina among other states but just so you get an idea!

4. Create meaningful content

This is extremely important to me because I want to connect with you guys on a different level. I might be a “blogger/influencer” but I’m totally relatable and I want you all to feel that way. This goal means putting out genuine and REAL content, good quality and being the best version of myself. This goes for all of my platforms like Instagram, YouTube and my blog. I want it to be more than just fashion, I want to share my tips and trips to EVERYTHING so I always encourage you to send me a DM on instagram https://www.instagram.com/segagenesis_/  I love chatting with you babes and answering your comments as well!

5. Explore new spots to eat

I have actually already started exploring recently and I kind of always have but for the new year I want to explore even more. I love saving locations on Instagram like coffee shops, resta even cute places to go for dessert. I usually stay in my comfort zone when it comes to food because I always end up picking the SAME spots to go eat but enough of that because it’s staying behind with 2018. I love locations that have a good aesthetic/decor because it makes me feel inspired to shoot creative and fresh content while eating which is a win/win situation. LOL

6. Spend less time on phone

This is a huge goal for me because I ALWAYS catch myself checking/responding to emails throughout the day or scrolling through instagram for no reason which isn’t productive at all. I am going to set a time each day for emails to get them out of the way and I’m going to cut my time in half on social media. I love engaging with others which is obviously not going to change but instead put my time to better use to get shit done instead of sitting back and scrolling through pictures.

7. Spend quality time with family

This coincides with spending less time on my phone, I want to be present in the moment and spend quality time with my family. It’s so easy to get caught up in a daily routine or make time for friends and be selfish with your time but I am making a conscious effort to turn that around. I have spent less time being out with others and more time making plans with family and it’s heartwarming. For the new year I plan on doing more of that and include my family with anything I have going on or simply just stay in to spend time with them.

8. A positive mindset

This is definitely a challenge at times because it’s so easy to create doubt and worry about a million little things that really have no importance at all. I am slowly learning to be more positive and I’ve learned that worrying isn’t going to change the future so being positive and hopeful is the only way to go. I’m always one to keep it real with anyone and especially with myself which I plan on doing not only for 2019 but forever. I have learned that good vibes are the most important to surround yourself with to have a positive mindset and that’s why I preach about cutting anything negative out of your life whether it’s people, habits or your lifestyle in order to turn things around for the better.

9. Stop procrastinating

OMG!!!! I’m one of the biggest procrastinators everrrrr and although I do work well under pressure, I hate putting things off especially when it comes to errands. For the new year I plan on creating to do lists for the week to make myself accountable to get things done and to STOP being lazy!

10. New job

This is one of the biggest goals and challenges I will have in 2019 and I am more than ready for it. I plan on getting a new job for the new year because I believe one should be happy when they go to work and if you don’t feel that way then you need to get yourself out!!! I finished school in May 2017 and I was lucky to have found a job soon after that had certain characteristics I was looking for like a flexible schedule and being close to home but I also found myself becoming lazy and not challenging myself and as many would stay because it’s “easy” that isn’t enough for me. I’m going to do my research and push myself to get out there and keep moving on up!

Ahhhhh so here are my top 10 goals for 2019 and I will definitely be sharing my progress with you all because I already have a lot of changes happening so watch out because your girl is here to kill it!!! I would love to hear your goals for the new year so comment below or let me know on Instagram! You can also subscribe to my blog by entering your email on my home page and be the first to know when a new post goes live!